It is entertaining to reflect on how small things can irk one. How silence can lead to the imagination and creative thinking in both magical and evil sense.
We are ushered toward trying to live in the moment. Yet living in the present, reacting to words, to conversations, to situations, to events, leave us with often times, not the best response. Rather than an intelligent thought formulated in a proper logical comprehensive response, it is filled with emotions that do not necessarily involve your true intentions.
We have been taught, explicitly or implicitly, that we must be proud people. Maintain a certain sense of pride in ourselves and often treading that border, venturing into arrogance and stubbornness just to express one's pride. I get it, Americans especially, but people of the world of all ethnicities and nationalities, we are proud people.
In the evolution of generations, we are losing core values and characteristics evident in these subsequent generations. The art of conversations is fading. Patience has nearly disappeared in our ever growing world of instant gratification. The sense of accomplishment in putting in effort and performing loses to the sense of entitlement as it further surfaces. Technology and it's advancements has put a "strain," on relationships with how they are developed and maintained. I used the word strain loosely as I'm aware some of these advancements have be beneficial but I'm dwelling on those that do not favor it.
I think back and I pinpoint this evolution with AOL's Instant Messenger. As the world wide web in its infancy gained traction and users grew by the millions, AIM found its way down to the teenagers and was like a plague spreading across the world. This fantasy world of chatting with your friends and interests instantly across miles and even states about anything and everything but really nothing. I use to get questioned and teased for smiling and laughing at the computer screen. My sense of introverted-ness was both evident and shelved, as I was sitting on the computer at my house but on AIM I had no shame or shyness to my conversations. I said what I wanted to say without blushing or being embarrassed because I was JUST in front of a screen. Sheltered from the judging eyes of my counterpart on the other end.
15+ years later and we have seen this beast grow into the fabric of society, affecting our everyday lives in how we now communicate. Whether it is through social media or text messages, we now have thorough premeditated conversations through these mediums, becoming increasingly bold and opinionated, yet not reaping the possible consequences or the objections of others through correction and embarrassment.
These mediums, at least in my experience, has lead to numerous misunderstandings. In using our words through text and social media, we have essentially eliminated the element of emotion with our tone and emphasis' of specific words. Worst, we lose the instinctual honest response that is required in an in-person conversation. We are now left "patiently" waiting for a response from the other end or recognition of the masses for our comment/declaration/etc. I quoted patiently to really just explain that we are never ever waiting patiently. We are likely frantically thinking of scenarios that explain why they are not responding immediately, what they must be thinking, how they must be feeling and in the end they do not care as much as you do to respond at all.
There is a comedy to all of this. I admittedly so, have been caught up in this and have had each of those thoughts in pursuit of potential suitors in the world of creating relationships. Intentions are unclear, reputations are needed to be kept up, personas are projected to create this aura and idea, and pride is to be maintained. It is a joke, a game, and an unnecessary stress to everyone involved. I will not give up over a minor speed bump but will cut my losses when speed bumps become walls, or road barriers (not the wooden ones, I can handle those, it is the concrete ones that "come out of nowhere"). Hypothetically speaking. I believe and have succumbed to the reality that I do not need to put up a front to impress, I do not need to steer away from my quirks and idiosyncrasies but be honest and truthful no matter the situation and it will all fall into place. More than ever, now, I am more satisfied and at peace with rejection than uncertainty. Here, hope is the stress that kills, rather than certainty that finishes it.
Placing my ego and pride aside, I am in the pursuit of simplicity. In all aspects of life, but especially in relationships. In the immortal words of the lady in the news video who got up for a cold-pop talking about the fire in her complex somewhere in the US, "Ain't nobody got time fo dat!"
15+ years later and we have seen this beast grow into the fabric of society, affecting our everyday lives in how we now communicate. Whether it is through social media or text messages, we now have thorough premeditated conversations through these mediums, becoming increasingly bold and opinionated, yet not reaping the possible consequences or the objections of others through correction and embarrassment.
These mediums, at least in my experience, has lead to numerous misunderstandings. In using our words through text and social media, we have essentially eliminated the element of emotion with our tone and emphasis' of specific words. Worst, we lose the instinctual honest response that is required in an in-person conversation. We are now left "patiently" waiting for a response from the other end or recognition of the masses for our comment/declaration/etc. I quoted patiently to really just explain that we are never ever waiting patiently. We are likely frantically thinking of scenarios that explain why they are not responding immediately, what they must be thinking, how they must be feeling and in the end they do not care as much as you do to respond at all.
There is a comedy to all of this. I admittedly so, have been caught up in this and have had each of those thoughts in pursuit of potential suitors in the world of creating relationships. Intentions are unclear, reputations are needed to be kept up, personas are projected to create this aura and idea, and pride is to be maintained. It is a joke, a game, and an unnecessary stress to everyone involved. I will not give up over a minor speed bump but will cut my losses when speed bumps become walls, or road barriers (not the wooden ones, I can handle those, it is the concrete ones that "come out of nowhere"). Hypothetically speaking. I believe and have succumbed to the reality that I do not need to put up a front to impress, I do not need to steer away from my quirks and idiosyncrasies but be honest and truthful no matter the situation and it will all fall into place. More than ever, now, I am more satisfied and at peace with rejection than uncertainty. Here, hope is the stress that kills, rather than certainty that finishes it.
Placing my ego and pride aside, I am in the pursuit of simplicity. In all aspects of life, but especially in relationships. In the immortal words of the lady in the news video who got up for a cold-pop talking about the fire in her complex somewhere in the US, "Ain't nobody got time fo dat!"
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