Social Pressures

The term "well aged" refers to the idea that things get better as it gets older. As years pass, whatever "it" is, is suppose to be better or get better in some way or form.

As we age, year after year, life gets more complex, until it hits its apex and begins to simplify once again. does it not?

When we were children, life was simple, respect, learn, do things that made you happy and eat candy. With time, you get older and you're now given responsibilities, not only to yourself but to your family.

We are said to be biologically programed to want to find a significant other or someone to spend time with.

WE have social norms that suggest we have a best friend, and relationships with people. We also are taught to be social and etc.

Somewhere we develop these emotions of happiness, sadness, jealousy, pain, discomfort, and etc. to describe what we feel and become an accurate description of our moods. But where along the lines do we learn to develop such emotions and social norms.

Where were we taught to have to have a social status, in terms of a relationship. People spend time together, do we need to label it under such a description? Why is there a need to, whether from one side or the other to clarify what exactly it is that is going on.

Ambiguity fosters questions that "need" to be answered. But why do you need to answer them, what happened in our development that has created this desire to clarify ambiguity, to have to or need to describe whatever it is that is happening.

The simplest answer, that essentially leads to more ambiguity is that it is really just Human Nature. But where did this description of Human Nature come from? How and who defined it. Is it simply because there really isn't any other explanation for it so we call it Human Nature. Is this development caused by the environment or was it innate. A brain function that as humans, the complex nature of our brain, this is just a production/consequence of this organism?

Confusing? Yes of course, did I make even MORE confusing, absolutely. Lets just say its my human nature and leave at that.

F-R-I-E-N-D-S

Just a quick thought, but for those of you who have graduated from college. Have you ever thought of how much more important your close friends are to you now than they where while you were in college and way back when you were a child?

When we were younger, we didn't really concern ourselves, at least for me, with finding a really really close group of friends. Mainly because we had such a plethora of people to choose from and really, to be honest, we always saw our friends everyday.

As we age, and live our own lives, it becomes much harder to keep in touch and to really stay local to your friends. Its not impossible, as I've seen my brother do it with his core group of friends, granted they're pretty spread out but the majority remain within 30mins of each other.

I on the other hand have a much harder time, I've been blessed to have 8 really close guy friends. Of course, if you don't already know from me telling you, 5 of them are happily married. Yeah, thats right, mid 20's and HAPPILY Married. Well, I haven't been fortunate enough to have them remain within 30mins of where I am. I have one across the nation in DC, one across the Pacific Ocean in Hawaii, 1 in Newport, 1 in Laguna, 1 in Irvine, and 1 in Villa Park and 1 in well, depends on the time of the year, he may be in another country or in newport. Worst, I will be moving down to San Diego in August and will be closer to two hours away from all of them.

My point, or observation rather, is that its so hard to organize our schedules to workout where we are able to see each other like we use to in undergrad all the time, life carries us on different paths, paths that have intersected and now wine the road hopefully to intersect more often than not and keep us remotely close. Needless to say, they are my closest friends, ones I can depend on and ones I know no matter what happens in our own lives, when I'm around them, life is good. Life is grand, and I can't complain.

Same Thoughts, New Location.

I've decided its time to change locations. I will now continue sharing my thoughts, opinions, feelings, observations at this location. Its like moving to another city, minus having to pack everything and unpack when you've arrived.

But if you're interested in previous entries, please feel free to venture over to my old location.

http://aquamandk.xanga.com/

Enjoy, I will talk to you soon.